How to live a Nearly Drama Free Life (no really, I’m not kidding!)

Love can be pretty stressful, we all know that. I can’t imagine anyone has had a perfect love life; where whoever they crush on likes them as well, where their relationships fall together effortlessly and the breakups are mutual. Even just a perfect single relationship, it just doesn’t happen to very many people.

So when one of my best friends came to me for help about getting into a relationship with an acquaintance of hers, I knew we had another fun situation on our hands. This problem wasn’t going to be as easy to solve as I had anticipated, for many reasons that I shall leave out of this post, but I attempted to nonetheless. In the end, she went away away more frustrated than before and I went away with a little bit of extra knowledge that I hadn’t anticipated learning.

Drama happens. Sometimes there is no way to stop it from happening because people naturally gossip and enjoy talking about other people. So there is little chance that you can complete eradicate it from your life. But after this conversation, I learned one very important lesson:

The less you care about drama, the less it effects your life.

Say something crazy happens; your sleep with someone and ends up peeing on their floor while they’re still drunk. On the one hand, you could take it personally when people ask you about it, plead with them to stop talking about it, and try to do anything in your power to stop the fire from spreading. OR, on the other hand, you could just laugh at yourself and then move on with your life.

The first option will do nothing but spread the story around and cause you stress and more drama. Attempting to stop the story from spreading will most like backfire because of the number of people that will be asking what you are arguing over.

But the second and more superior option (though difficult to stick to for some), will let the story sizzle away with time, leaving you drama free!

This might be a new idea for some, so give it a try next time something happens that could potentially cause drama. Remember to sit back, relax, enjoy the ride, and know everything is going to be okay in the end!

Hope everyone is having a wonderful weekend! 🙂 Watch some football or relax, you deserve it!

A Very Inspirational Weekend

So this weekend, more than other weekend, was especially inspirational for myself. I don’t know if it was the fact that I had a long car ride to think in, or that I saw a lot of family, both young and old, that I hadn’t seen for a while. Or it could possibly have been because I turned 20 this Friday. Either way, I realized a couple of things.

First of all, I learned that being 20, though not much different from being 19, (21 is where it all happens, boy will I feel old when next year rolls around…) is filled with many more responsibilities. No more being a teenager, time to grow up and face the real world. Time to put work before fun (but occasionally the other way around), and start getting a little more serious about my life after college. A big part of this summer is devoted to figuring out what I, essentially, “want to do with my life,” so I feel like now I need to start taking this task more seriously and explore all the options that really interest me.

I also realized a couple other little things, such as the fact that I love to cook so I should be doing that more and exploring different recipes and ingredients and such. Also, I would like to learn to ride a motorcycle one day, not only because it looks fun, but because of its fuel efficiency and its convenience. And lastly, if I want my children to have good relationships with their aunts, uncles, and cousins, then I need to have a better relationship and outlook on my cousins now. My cousins are a little bit strange, but really who isn’t? So seeing them this weekend made me feel better about them and I was able to talk with them more than I usually do when they visit.

Overall, a great weekend. For anyone following along at home, I haven’t posted in a while on here, but I hope to pick that up a little more because I enjoy blogging for myself and hopefully getting feedback from other bloggers like myself. So I will be posting more frequently! Until then, have a wonderful day! 🙂

Why do College Kids Drink So FREAKIN Much???

A little back story: here at Penn State we have a weekend known as State Patties Weekend (opposed to Saint Patties Day, cleaver huh?). It was created a while ago because originally Saint Patrick’s Day was not during Spring Break and was a fairly large drinking holiday. But one day, the big bad University moved Spring Break so that it fell when Saint Patrick’s Day did as well, make the holiday no more. So in retaliation, the students essentially moved Saint Patrick’s Day to a weekend when we were in school, renamed it, and continued on their merry way.

This past weekend was State Patties Weekend… Lucky for me I wasn’t home for a good bit of it, but my roommates reported the obscene events that happened when I returned. The police were on our floor busting people and parties, the elevator was littered with more beer cans than usual, and vandalism, drunken harassment, fights, and other illegal activities were happening left and right.

So my question is this: Why does it have to be like this? Why is getting drunk such a big deal? And why should the community suffer for the actions of a few idiot? Personally I think the past has been the biggest influence on setting the trends for years to come. But those future trends need to be stopped soon or something serious might come about. 

If you are in college or will be going to college soon, all I can say is this. Please don’t start drinking as a pastime. It can be fun when it is with good friends or in a certain environment, but don’t become a public humiliation. But when it becomes a weekly activity, on school nights or before special events, then it has gone too far. Please drink responsibly as well. The actions you make in college CAN stay with you for the rest of your life. Just take these words to heart for a second and don’t say I didn’t warn you!