Back To School Thought

As another semester of college began this week, I couldn’t help but think about my past. Just how on earth did I get to where I am right now? How was I so lucky to make friends, to succeed in school, to learn firsthand in the field of study I hope to one day pursue? HOW?

It truly is amazing sometimes how life just works itself out for the better. I see some of my old friends from high school every once in a while. I always make an effort to pick right back up where we left off, like the past two years never happened. But it’s difficult…so much has changed to those I once knew so well. Some have gone down better paths than others, and for them I hope for some guidance as they continue their journey through life. But others are doing really well off – enjoying their college experience, making friends, and slowly but surely becoming more and more successful.

I have a dear friend who has always been “bothered” by the fact that while we are living our own lives, other people who are not with us are living their lives as well. Even though they are not a next to us or even in the same state as us, they are going through the same daily routines as we are. I guess I can agree with her, it is a tad odd to think about…

For everyone just starting a new chapter of their life, savor every moment and every day. Because there will always be that desire to look back on life, to remember the past. My other friend has a great quote on his arm though: “Those who look back are lost.” Savor the past, but don’t live in it. Life keeps moving forward and you must too.

And for those continuing to grow and learn, reach for the stars. We are only given one life, and it’s all of our jobs to live it in the best way that we can.

Hope everyone has a great Friday tomorrow 🙂 Thanks for reading!

The One Time Buzzfeed Was Actually Right About My Life

Buzzfeed.com is a magical website. They put out so many articles that I don’t think they can even keep track of them all! Normally they’re either somewhat funny or somewhat relevant, or they tell you the character in Game of Thrones that you are only kinda similar too. Rarely are they super accurate. Until today…

Lo and behold, 29 Genuinely Astonishing Facts You Learn In Your Twenties

Now if these aren’t the most accurate things I have ever seen, then I don’t know what is. For those going through some trouble in life, take a look here. This helped me realize that the things I’m feeling about my life aren’t uncommon, that other people are in the same boat as me, and that everything is going to be alright!

Leave it to Friends to brighten your day, I mean really! 🙂

Lessons Learned at a Swap Meet

So this morning, my mother and I woke up early and drove over to our neighborhood Farmers Market to set up a booth for a Swap Meet. As it was the first time the market had ever organized one of these swap meets, there were only 4 booths there, including ours. We set up to the side of the building and waited for patrons to stop by and possibly pick up a thing or two from our table of children’s toys, centerpieces, old video games, and lots of outgrown clothing. It was a beautiful day and we were surrounded by beautiful people…or so I thought. 

About 30 minutes into the meet, a man cam over. Tall, a little on the heavier side, and looking to be around the 40-55 years old range, the man asked us about what we were selling, where we were from, etc. (ya know, small talk stuff). He then told my mom and I about his life; how he travels around flea markets and farmers markets selling tech goods, nonperishable goods, and office supplies items for extremely low prices (we’re talking 2 Naked Fruit Juices for $1 low…). He told us how he buys his products, and where and when he sells them. It was fascinating really.

The big lesson (or possibly the big problem) with this whole situation, is that I judged him at first. His appearance made him seem less educated than he really was, and I was guilty to judging this book by its cover. But really, he was a very sweet man who was very smart and had connections to many of the other booths. Swap Meet people are very nice, It just may take some time to realize. And this goes for most people. Until we sit down and really get to know someone, we really have no right to judge them. 

Hope everyone has a great Saturday; it’s gorgeous out here 🙂

How to Help a Friend in Need

We all have that friend: every setback they have, no matter how minuscule, is a big deal in their world. They stretch the truth so much to the point where even they know they sound ridiculous. You feel bad for them because they seem stressed and overwhelmed, even if whatever they are complaining about may be silly in your mind. You want to help make them smile and stop worrying, even for just a few seconds. “Life goes on.” “There are much bigger problems in the world.” Unfortunately you can’t just say these things without getting getting the what-are-you-talking-about glance. So how do you help them?

Over the summer, my mother suggested a book to me by the title The Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin. Check it out if you haven’t already, it’s a fantastic read in my opinion. The book isn’t for those who are essentially unhappy, but just for those who want to milk all the happiness they can out of their lives. 

There is a section in the book that talks about how the author was able to sympathize with her children much more easily from a few simple steps. While helping your 2-year-old child is much different from helping your 20-year-old best friend, there is one strategy that I think can be used effectively. That strategy is simply to show them that you understand the pain they are going through and to let them know that you will always be there for them.

The book suggests to simply repeat whatever the person said in simpler terms as a way of showing that you understand. For example, if your friend just broke up with her boyfriend because he cheated on her with her best friend, then you could say “You feel betrayed by everyone right now.” This obviously is an exaggeration, along with the story your friend probably described to you; she hasn’t been betrayed by everyone. This helps to show them that you understand their situation though. 

After that, think before you say anything else. Actually, sometimes it’s best not to say anything at all and to just listen. Silence can be awkward, but also necessary for thoughts to fully develop. If you rush the person you are helping, they could get carried away with the words coming out of their mouth. But some time to think (and let them speak when they are ready!) can make all the difference. Finally, it’s important to end the conversation by assuring your friend that they have someone they can rely on at any time of day. Not even using a crutch, but just knowing that you have one in case you need him or her, can be extremely comforting.

 

Friendship is a beautiful thing, and it can be difficult to take care of sometimes. I hope this post was helpful to those going through a tough time or helping someone else through a tough time. If you have any questions, comments, or suggestions, don’t hesitate to leave them for me below. Everyone have a wonderful Friday!! 🙂